The challenges of my life as a woman, partner, mother and entrepreneur are numerous but not insurmountable.
Mom primarily!
As a mother of 3 young children, my 2 ½ year old twins and their 5 ½ year old sister, I admit that it is quite a challenge to reconcile the 4 roles together. I'm talking to you today about my personal experience, and about my organization to find a little balance.
First and foremost, my children are my priority, and take up most of my time. Between running my business, taking care of my family, doing household chores, etc., I chose to focus on the most important things, and take the pressure off myself of having, for example, a tidy house. Same thing for my project, I take it one day at a time and I delegate what I can, to facilitate growth.
When my daughters are home, I put everything on pause so they have my full attention. These are our moments, and they are precious.
The secret is to take the pressure off yourself and take it one day at a time.
Be organized and well surrounded
I take advantage of the time when they are at daycare, or when they are sleeping, to work on my project. Also, there are tasks in my business that I have chosen to delegate to be more productive. I also don't forget to take time for myself, and for my relationship, when my partner is present. This is important, even if it is not always obvious. When my partner is absent, it's twice as much work for me obviously, and quite difficult at times. But I do what I can, without putting too much pressure on myself.
With children, it’s quite a logistics! Especially when an unexpected event occurs, or when they are on leave.
I recently experienced a situation with one of my twins who had to be hospitalized, and I admit that maintaining balance was not easy. I was at the end of my rope, and helpless at the same time, because my 2 other daughters didn't understand why Mom and their sister weren't coming home. As for my partner, who was studying and working at the same time, he had to manage the house as well as the trips to and from the hospital. We were exhausted.
Fortunately my mother helped, and gave us a little respite. It helped us enormously, and allowed the whole family to put their energies in the right place.
Vacation management!
Another situation that can be challenging is the arrival of summer and the holidays. My daughters' daycare closes for a while, and finding myself alone at home with the 3 children, hmmm...
But at the same time, I try to see the positive side of this situation, because it allows me to let go of the pressure from all the other aspects of my life, and to take advantage of it to spend wonderful moments with my daughters, strengthen our bond and create beautiful holiday memories.
Avoid isolation
In conclusion, I would say that to find your balance you have to take the pressure off yourself, choose your priorities and above all not forget yourself, because it is fundamental. The well-being of the entire family depends on the development and well-being of the mother. So, you have to listen to yourself, prioritize yourself, trust yourself and, above all, surround yourself well.
If it happens that you do not have the support of your family, your partner or friends, do not hesitate to seek help elsewhere.
To avoid isolation in your business, joining a good networking group, among others, is a must. I experienced it myself, with my membership to the RFAQ which offers events that allow you to connect with inspiring women.
Si l’envie d'en jaser avec une autre « mompreneur » comme vous, n’hésitez pas à m’écrire. Ça me fera plaisir qu'on échange ensemble.
Looking forward to hear from you! ♥♥♥
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